Books Forgiving What You Can't Forget - Lysa Terkeurst

Forgiving What You Can't Forget by Lysa TerKeurst is a deeply compassionate and practical guide that helps readers navigate the difficult journey of forgiving profound hurts that feel impossible to forget. TerKeurst draws from her own struggles and extensive theological study to offer a transparent, relatable perspective on forgiveness as both a decision and a process that involves healing from the emotional impact of trauma.

The book emphasizes that forgiveness does not mean forgetting or excusing the wrongdoing, nor does it require the offender’s repentance. Instead, forgiveness is a choice to release bitterness and reclaim peace, even when the pain remains vivid. TerKeurst provides actionable steps such as journaling, setting healthy boundaries, and spiritual practices rooted in scripture to support readers in working through anger, grief, and mistrust.

A key theme is “connecting the dots”—understanding how past wounds shape current beliefs and emotions, and then reframing those beliefs in a way that fosters healing and hope. TerKeurst also addresses the ongoing nature of forgiveness, acknowledging that emotions may resurface and require continual grace.

The book is praised for its honest, vulnerable storytelling and its balance of emotional insight with practical guidance. It is especially recommended for those wrestling with deep offenses, offering encouragement that forgiveness is possible and transformative, even when the hurt feels permanent.

In summary, Forgiving What You Can't Forget is a faith-based, step-by-step roadmap to healing and freedom, helping readers move beyond resentment to find peace and restoration despite enduring pain

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