Books Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers  by Gordon Neufeld (Author), Gabor Maté MD (Author)

Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers" by Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté, MD, addresses the modern challenge where children increasingly look to their peers for guidance and attachment rather than their parents. The authors argue this peer orientation undermines parental influence and disrupts healthy development. The book explains the importance of secure parent-child attachment and how this attachment fosters emotional maturity, independence, and resilience. Neufeld and Maté highlight that parents must actively "collect" their children daily through meaningful interactions and maintain themselves as the primary "attachment figure" or "compass point" in their children's lives.