Books How To Set Boundaries: The life-changing, relationship-enhancing manual for nice people who are tired of being disrespected: Kyalo, Jennifer

How To Set Boundaries is a practical guide designed especially for people who struggle to say no, feel exhausted from pleasing others, and want to be respected without guilt or fear. Jennifer Kyalo, a counseling psychologist, unpacks the emotional and psychological roots behind difficulty with boundaries and provides clear, actionable strategies for change.

What the Book Covers

Understanding Why Boundaries Are Hard

Explores why quick tips like "just say no" often fail, revealing deep-seated beliefs and emotional triggers that keep people stuck in people-pleasing patterns.

Examines the psychology of guilt and fear that hold nice people back from setting limits, and how to recognize your own patterns.

Step-by-Step Boundary Setting Framework

Offers a structured approach: clarifying why you need a boundary, anticipating resistance, clear communication, and enforcement without aggression or apology.

Emphasizes that boundaries are about self-respect, not selfishness.

Communication Tools

Provides scripts and examples for expressing limits assertively and compassionately in relationships with partners, family, friends, and colleagues.

Guidance for what to do when others push back or ignore your boundaries.

Building Self-Awareness

Encourages readers to reflect on their own needs and emotional triggers, building confidence to prioritize themselves.

Sustaining Boundaries

Covers how to maintain boundaries in the long term even in the face of guilt, pressure, or manipulation.

Offers tips for self-care, emotional resilience, and establishing boundaries in digital and real-world settings.

Key Features

Why Read This Book?

Helps break the cycle of over-giving and resentment.

Equips you with the skills to set healthy, sustainable boundaries that lead to respect.

Encourages you to care for yourself as much as you do for others, without losing compassion or connection.

How To Set Boundaries is ideal for anyone ready to move from exhaustion and frustration to empowered communication, healthier relationships, and a balanced, authentic life.

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