Books Why Men Love Btches and Why Men Marry Btches by Sherry. A

Why Men Love Btches

This best-selling dating guide encourages women to move from being overly accommodating “Nice Girls” to being independent, self-assured “Btches” (in the author’s positive sense). A “btch” maintains her own life, has boundaries, and doesn’t compromise her self-respect to please a man. The book contends that men are more attracted to women who:

Put their own needs and happiness first

Set clear limits and don’t tolerate disrespect

Are confident, assertive, and authentic instead of needy or passive

Instead of constantly striving to please a man, such women retain their dignity and independence, which makes them more intriguing and respected by their partners. The core message is that self-love, independence, and assertiveness naturally lead to healthier and more balanced romantic dynamics.​

Why Men Marry Btches

The follow-up book extends these principles to long-term commitment and marriage. It teaches women to continue being assertive, confident, and self-respecting in serious relationships, not just during initial dating. Key lessons include:

Keeping standards high and refusing to settle for less than deserved

Balancing vulnerability with strength and holding onto personal passions

Recognizing and acting on red flags early

Making a man “earn” commitment rather than chasing him or demanding marriage