Silent Agreements: How to Free Your Relationships of Unspoken Expectations Authors: Linda D. Anderson, PhD

Silent Agreements: How to Free Your Relationships of Unspoken Expectations is a groundbreaking exploration of the hidden dynamics that influence our relationships. Written by three accomplished psychologists—Dr. Linda D. Anderson, Dr. Sonia R. Banks, and Dr. Michele L. Owens—this book sheds light on the unspoken rules and expectations that often govern our interactions with others.

These “silent agreements” are the implicit understandings we form without ever discussing them—assumptions about roles, responsibilities, and emotional needs that can lead to confusion, resentment, and conflict when left unaddressed. Drawing on clinical experience, cultural insight, and psychological research, the authors guide readers through the process of identifying these hidden contracts and replacing them with open, honest communication.

With practical tools, real-life examples, and reflective exercises, Silent Agreements empowers readers to:

Recognize the silent agreements operating in their relationships

Understand how these agreements are formed and reinforced

Communicate more clearly and assertively

Build stronger, more authentic connections in personal and professional life

Whether you're navigating romantic relationships, family dynamics, friendships, or workplace interactions, this book offers a transformative framework for breaking free from the unspoken and embracing clarity, trust, and mutual respect.