Books THE LET THEM THEORY

Core ideas from the book

You are not responsible for other people’s emotions
Trying to manage how others feel is a fast track to burnout. You can be kind without self-abandoning.

Control is the illusion
No amount of explaining, over-giving, or overthinking can force someone to show up differently.

Boundaries become easier
“Let them” creates emotional distance so you can choose how you respond instead of reacting.

Rejection loses its sting
When someone opts out of your life, it becomes information — not a verdict on your worth.

Your energy is finite
Stop spending it on people who’ve shown you who they are.