Books Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself  by Dr Aziz Gazipura (Author)

"Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself" by Dr. Aziz Gazipura is a transformative book that challenges the cultural obsession with being "nice." Gazipura, a clinical psychologist specializing in social confidence, argues that excessive niceness often stems from fear, guilt, and a need to be liked, which leads to emotional, mental, and physical tolls like chronic stress and anxiety.

Key insights from the book include:

Niceness is often a mask for inauthenticity, preventing genuine relationships and personal growth.

The "nice" behavior avoids discomfort in the short term but inhibits taking bold actions necessary for success and self-expression.

Gazipura introduces five pillars for overcoming people-pleasing: having boundaries, owning your shadow (embracing your less-ideal traits), speaking up, being more selfish (prioritizing your needs), and learning to say no.

The book includes practical steps and a 30-day action plan to help readers stop staying silent, stop feeling guilty, and start unapologetically being themselves.

Gazipura emphasizes that you are not responsible for other people’s feelings, encouraging readers to let go of worrying about how others will react and to live authentically.

In this way, the book aims to help readers build confidence, improve relationships, and achieve greater personal freedom by breaking free from the limitations of being "too nice".​